With the excitement of Eid coming it’s natural for children to get excited, but what do you do if they get a bit too excited?
Kids can get overexcited when they’re very absorbed in a task or overstimulated. If your child tends to get overexcited, what can you do to help him or her calm down? Here are ideas to help kids cope with over excitement at different ages.
For Pre Schoolers
- Some kids with learning and attention issues may be more likely to get overexcited.
- There’s no instant fix to make your preschooler stop being overexcited.
- Learning how to read the signs that your child is starting to get overexcited can help you nip overexcitement in the bud.
Seeing your preschooler get excited is great. But if he gets overexcited, that’s a different story. And kids with certain learning and attention issues like ADHD may be more prone to overexcitement than other kids.
Learning to calm an overexcited preschooler is a process. There aren’t any quick solutions, but there are things you can do that can help over time.
Try using the three R’s: recognizing when your child’s getting overexcited, reading what cues could have tipped you off, and finding ways to respond the next time you see the cues. Below are some common reasons your preschooler may get overexcited and how you might apply the three R’s.
Recognize: Your child is playing tag. The other kids stop playing, but he keeps chasing and tagging them, laughing even when they get mad.
Read the cues: Your child got caught up in the game—screeching and laughing louder than the other kids. He wasn’t able to look around and notice that the game was over, and he couldn’t stop.
Respond: Put yourself physically between your child and the other kids. If he doesn’t mind being touched, try putting your hands on his shoulders and saying, “The game is over now. You seemed to have a lot of fun playing, but now it’s time to stop.” Guide him to a new activity.
Plan for next time: Set up a signal that you and he agree would work well to help him know when it’s time to stop. Plan on giving your child a five-minute notice when you see him start getting louder and too excited.
He’s overly absorbed.
Recognize: At a birthday party, your child refuses to leave the ring toss and move on. The more you try to make him, the more upset he gets. Before long he’s kicking and screaming.
Read the cues: Your child got really into the game. The more he played, the less he noticed other kids talking to him. He kept saying, “Just one more turn!”
Respond: If your child is in full-on meltdown mode, he may not be able to accept your help or even move away from the area with you. Make sure he and everybody around him are safe. Ask the others to give you a little space and tell him, “I’ll just sit with you until you’re feeling calmer.”
Plan for next time: When you see signs that your child is getting overly absorbed, interrupt and give him a 10-minute notice. Check in again at five minutes and three minutes. When time is up, you can say, “You really enjoyed that! It’s time to move on to the next game.”
Recognize: At the park, another preschooler is using your child’s favorite swing. He yells that the other child took “his” swing and tries to push him off.
Read the cues: Your child talked all morning about using “his” swing. When he saw the other child on the swing, he started clenching his fists and huffing and puffing.
Respond: Get your preschooler out of the other child’s way to keep him safe. Try saying, “I know you’ve been looking forward to swinging and you’re upset.” Attempt to redirect him: “Let’s use the slide until that boy is done.”
Plan for next time: Prep your child. Try saying, “There might be another kid on your favorite swing. You can wait calmly or use another swing. If you can’t, we’ll have to leave.” And help him learn to be aware of his reaction. “Did you know you’re making fists? I notice you do that when you start getting angry.”
Learn more about how to respond when your child gets fixated on something.
Your response may not always calm your child in the moment. But learning to recognize tricky situations and read your child’s cues can help you both find ways to respond more effectively to them in the future—or even prevent them.
- It may help your preschooler if you have an agreed-upon signal to give him when he seems to be getting too excited.
- Making your child more aware of how he acts and feels when he’s getting overexcited can eventually help him stay calmer.
- Giving your child a heads-up that he’ll have to move on to another activity soon can help him prepare—and may reduce meltdowns.
To help your Grade Schooler with Over excitement
- Kids with certain learning and attention issues may be especially likely to get overexcited.
- Getting fixated or hyper-focused on something can lead to overexcitement.
- You can help your grade-schooler get better at managing her overexcitement over time.
It’s wonderful to see your child enthusiastic and involved, whether she’s playing volleyball or acting out the plot of a favorite movie for her friends. But if she gets too excited, she can lose control and make people around her uncomfortable.
Kids with certain learning and attention issues, such as ADHD or executive functioning issues, may be especially prone to getting overexcited. And there aren’t any quick and easy methods guaranteed to calm your grade-schooler down when it’s happening. But you can work together to reduce these episodes over time.
You and your child can both use the three R’s—recognize when a situation is triggering overexcitement, read what your child’s cues were, and learn new ways to respond. Below are a few reasons that your grade-schooler may get overexcited and how you can apply the three R’s to help her.
Recognize: Your child is playing video games with friends. She refuses to give up the controller to anyone else and insists she just needs to get to the next level. Her friends want to leave, and she starts screaming at them.
Read possible cues:
- Increased volume: Your child yells at the game and her friends.
- Tense body language: She leans toward the screen, paces and grimaces.
- Decreased awareness of her surroundings: She doesn’t seem to hear your voice or notice that her friends acting restless.
Respond: Pause or turn off the game. This may upset her even more, but she probably won’t be able to pay attention to you while it’s on. Take her to another room so she can calm down away from her friends. If she won’t go, ask them to move to a different room.
Try saying, “I know you’re really into the game. But your friends are feeling left out and bossed around. Can you be calm enough for them to stay?”
Plan for next time: Think about setting ground rules for video games (or whatever seems to trigger your child’s overexcitement). Maybe everyone only gets to spend 20 minutes playing at a time—and only as long as they’re polite.
You can also explain to your child what you notice when she starts getting hyper-focused. Next time, you can point out the signs so she can begin to monitor herself and recognize what they feel and sound like to her.
She’s overly fixated.
Recognize: Your child’s cousins aren’t interested in the game she wants to play. She keeps repeating, “But we have to play kickball!” When they find something else to do, she follows them, screaming that they have to listen to her.
Read possible cues:
- Being “stuck”: Your child has been saying how excited she is about playing kickball with her cousins for days before this family gathering.
- Not listening: She doesn’t hear her cousins’ other suggestions or lack of enthusiasm.
- Not reading social cues: She doesn’t notice the other kids acting annoyed and uncomfortable.
Respond: Guide your child to a quieter space or ask other people to leave the area while she calms down with you. Model taking deep, calming breaths.
Try saying, “I know you’re upset, and we can talk about it when you feel a little calmer.” If she screams, “I’m calm, I want to talk now!” it’s OK to say, “I’m not feeling calm yet. Let’s wait a few minutes.”
Plan for next time: Before a visit, prepare your child. Let her know it’s possible that other kids may not always want to do what she wants. Role-play possible situations so she has an idea of what to say if that happens. You can also help her learn to “check in” to monitor herself and see if she can feel herself escalating. Is her voice louder? Does her body feel tense?
- You can learn to recognize the signs that your grade-schooler is becoming overexcited.
- Making your child aware of what you see when she’s overexcited can help her recognize when it’s happening.
- Beginning to realize when she’s overexcited can help your grade-schooler learn to control problem behaviors later in her life.
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